"Solitude is the mother of anxieties" - Syrus
Why start psychotherapy?
There are many reasons why someone decides to start psychotherapy. However, in my experience there is usually one main reason; we can all feel stuck, alone and not heard at times. Friends and family cannot always help and may, without realising it, add to the problem. Psychotherapy offers a private, confidential and safe space to speak openly about anything from work through to personal conundrums. As I am psychoanalytically inclined I do find it very helpful to look back at a person's past and to try to understand how the past has shaped the present. Without gaining understanding of one's own past I believe it is hard to achieve the change that one hopes for in the present.
This is something that is incredibly hard to do unassisted - trapped in our own minds, we tend to get stuck in the same circular thought processes, never making progress or reaching new ground, sometimes without even realising it. Psychotherapy is a way to break out of this cycle and finally make progress in personal self-development.
What is psychotherapy for?
Psychotherapy is about untangling difficult emotions in a confidential space with someone who will get to know you very well but will at the same time remain on the outside of your everyday life. Psychotherapy is a place where you can clarify your thoughts and emotions, enabling you to shift gear and move forward. I believe this happens as a result from getting to know yourself and your real thoughts and feelings better. Psychotherapy invites you to see yourself in a new light and it is a space to think about your strengths and how to develop them.
When faced with difficulties many of us try to deal with it alone. It is my experience that this usually does not lead very far. Instead it is when we work and think together with someone else that we are most likely to get out of our unhelpful patterns. This process helps us to find more liberating and constructive paths.
My theoretical background is in attachment and psychoanalysis and I believe most of our patterns are created in childhood within the relations we have had with our caregivers. I think it is of utmost importance to go back to the root of the problem in order to understand what once went wrong. This process is not about blaming but about exploring difficult emotions in a safe and non-judgemental space where we can think about these potentially very painful feelings together. As it is in the relationship between therapist and client where the potential for change lies it is of utmost importance that you as a client feel comfortable with the practitioner that you chose to go to.
Something that many don't connect with psychotherapy is the creativity of it. As Baudelaire said 'In the depths of the unknown, we will find the new’. I believe this to be true of all creative processes including psychotherapy.
How long is a session?
A normal psychotherapeutic session is 50 minutes long and we would normally meet once a week although I am happy to meet twice weekly if needed.
How much does it cost?
My fee is between £65 and £85, depending on circumstances and time of day. I charge for missed sessions as the time slot is yours but if you inform me in advance that you cannot come at your allotted time I will always do my best to rearrange.
In what languages do you offer psychotherapy?
I offer psychotherapy in both English and Swedish.
So how do I start?
If you think you would like to start then I suggest we meet for an initial meeting. I usually make this 75 minutes long so that we will have enough time to get a feel for if we will be able to work well together. What is discussed can be intensely personal and difficult so it is very important for the patient to feel comfortable with their practitioner. If I think that you would be better suited to another psychotherapist and/or another kind of psychotherapy, counselling or psychoanalysis, which is outside my specific line of practice, then I will happily pass on any suggestions. If therapy is considered by both to be in the person's best interest then a date can be set for the therapy to commence.
No one can truly know himself
Detach himself from his innermost being
Yet still he must test, each day
What he clearly sees from without
What he is, what he was
What he can do, and what he stands for